A friend posted this on Facebook today. I think it is accurate, but doesn't convey the impact of what this reality means.
Slow down girls. Slow waaaaayyyyy down.
Sunday, June 24, 2012
Saturday, June 23, 2012
Men are from... where???
Yesterday DiDi mentioned to the real estate agent who is helping us find a B&B property that we've been talking about the institution of marriage. I said that we've been seeing marriages disintegrate all around us. The agent responded very seriously. She said "I know exactly why it's happening. It's because men are assholes." She's considering writing a book on the subject.
We laughed because it was such an unexpected answer. And having both been through ugly marital situations ourselves, DiDi and I sympathized with the emotion of the statement.
But of course it isn't true, any more than "all women are bitches" is true.
(Or perhaps they are both true.)
The agent is on her third marriage, and this one isn't going terribly well. Because of her history, she's given up on the idea of men. And she's not alone. Many women who come out of difficult relationships draw the same conclusion, which is very sad.
Masculinity itself is not the problem. Nor is femininity. The two are meant to be complementary and compatible. The particular matches themselves are the problem.
People marry the wrong people. In some cases they do it over and over again.
It's time to refocus. Talk to the young people in your life as soon as you can about this. Tell them that there are few decisions more important than the selection of a mate. Tell them that they are worth much. Teach the young ladies that they are treasures, and the young men that they are noble princes.
Help turn the whole situation around, one person at a time.
We can do this. You and I.
We laughed because it was such an unexpected answer. And having both been through ugly marital situations ourselves, DiDi and I sympathized with the emotion of the statement.
But of course it isn't true, any more than "all women are bitches" is true.
(Or perhaps they are both true.)
The agent is on her third marriage, and this one isn't going terribly well. Because of her history, she's given up on the idea of men. And she's not alone. Many women who come out of difficult relationships draw the same conclusion, which is very sad.
Masculinity itself is not the problem. Nor is femininity. The two are meant to be complementary and compatible. The particular matches themselves are the problem.
People marry the wrong people. In some cases they do it over and over again.
It's time to refocus. Talk to the young people in your life as soon as you can about this. Tell them that there are few decisions more important than the selection of a mate. Tell them that they are worth much. Teach the young ladies that they are treasures, and the young men that they are noble princes.
Help turn the whole situation around, one person at a time.
We can do this. You and I.
Thursday, June 21, 2012
You say we need a revolution...
Re-posted from A Theology of Desire:
Marriages are imploding all around me. In some cases I could see it coming for years ahead of time. In a few cases, it has been a surprise.
Simultaneously, the airways are filled with chatter and clamor about gay marriage. As a result, I've come to a conclusion.
I want to start a marriage revolution.
The revolution would focus on three essential tenets:
What if we started training our children from toddlerhood right up until they are launched?
What if our high schools offered classes in relationship preparedness instead of "sex education"?
What if our churches helped people understand God's plan for spousal union from the pulpit and through formation classes, rather than in a few counseling sessions before the marriage service takes place?
It seems so simple.
Tell me; am I missing something?
Marriages are imploding all around me. In some cases I could see it coming for years ahead of time. In a few cases, it has been a surprise.
Simultaneously, the airways are filled with chatter and clamor about gay marriage. As a result, I've come to a conclusion.
I want to start a marriage revolution.
The revolution would focus on three essential tenets:
- Choosing the right person.
- For the right reason.
- At the right time.
What if we started training our children from toddlerhood right up until they are launched?
What if our high schools offered classes in relationship preparedness instead of "sex education"?
What if our churches helped people understand God's plan for spousal union from the pulpit and through formation classes, rather than in a few counseling sessions before the marriage service takes place?
It seems so simple.
Tell me; am I missing something?
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