Yesterday DiDi mentioned to the real estate agent who is helping us find a B&B property that we've been talking about the institution of marriage. I said that we've been seeing marriages disintegrate all around us. The agent responded very seriously. She said "I know exactly why it's happening. It's because men are assholes." She's considering writing a book on the subject.
We laughed because it was such an unexpected answer. And having both been through ugly marital situations ourselves, DiDi and I sympathized with the emotion of the statement.
But of course it isn't true, any more than "all women are bitches" is true.
(Or perhaps they are both true.)
The agent is on her third marriage, and this one isn't going terribly well. Because of her history, she's given up on the idea of men. And she's not alone. Many women who come out of difficult relationships draw the same conclusion, which is very sad.
Masculinity itself is not the problem. Nor is femininity. The two are meant to be complementary and compatible. The particular matches themselves are the problem.
People marry the wrong people. In some cases they do it over and over again.
It's time to refocus. Talk to the young people in your life as soon as you can about this. Tell them that there are few decisions more important than the selection of a mate. Tell them that they are worth much. Teach the young ladies that they are treasures, and the young men that they are noble princes.
Help turn the whole situation around, one person at a time.
We can do this. You and I.
Loving God, your neighbor and yourself.
ReplyDeleteSeems to be a three-fold commandment.
These greatest commandments applied to our lives would change all of our relationships. They would change all of decisions and interactions; From finding friends to entering into a bond of marriage.
Love is a magnifying glass.
Father...forgive men and women for using our differences to control one another for our own sakes..rather than to love one another for Your sake.
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